ALWAYS ASK FIRST
This pertains to touching another person in a sexual manner. Yes, people at a swingers club may be more liberated than the average person, but you should ask politely first to avoid any uncomfortable situations. Those who fail to ask and upset another person may be asked to leave by management.
NO MEANS NO
At Our Secret Spot no one is obliged, nor should they be, to partake in any activity with anyone else they do not want to. If you are the one saying no, consider the other person’s feelings and be polite. A simple, “no I’m not interested” or “thanks, but no thanks” is usually enough. If you are the one being turned down, respect the other person’s wishes and do not continue to pursue them. If a dispute arises, feel free to notify a member of staff and the situation will be dealt with.
This is a suggestion from the management at Our Secret Spot. Entering a swingers club or swinging for the first time can be daunting. To help avoid embarrassing misunderstandings and confrontations at the venue, it’s a wise choice to discuss with your partner before you arrive at the venue what you are happy to partake in and what you aren’t. Maybe have a code word if you need to have a discreet chat without making a situation awkward. It is also a helpful idea to discuss boundaries with any new partners you meet at Our Secret Spot.
DRESS TO IMPRESS
Our Secret Spot is a venue that has class and our patrons reflect this. So when coming to the venue for a night out, consider your appearance. Ladies, you should think cocktail dress or nightclub wear and perhaps some lingerie underneath. Gents consider a neatly pressed shirt, trousers and dress shoes. We do provide lockers and have a make-up area – so you can change into something that might not be so acceptable on the street. Leave the joggers, ill-fitted denim, and t-shirts at home.
Respect your fellow patrons and staff. Be courteous to all that you encounter. Any rude, obnoxious, or offensive behaviour will result in removal from the premises.
Whilst we have no issue with you swapping phone numbers, saliva or even underwear, we do recommend safer sex practices with those you have just met or don’t know very well. Nothing you don’t know already, but it makes us feel better saying it. We do provide plenty of condoms and lubricant for your naughty activities, so use as much as you need.
SORRY, NO PHOTOS PLEASE
The privacy of all our guests is extremely important. Therefore, there is a strict NO PHOTOS policy. We do ask that all cameras and mobile phones be placed in your locker upon arrival. This avoids any uncomfortable situations.
NO SEX WORKERS
“Not that there is anything wrong with that.” We do not employ sex workers to entertain guests as we feel it detracts from the essence of what Our Secret Spot is – and that is a safe and erotic place for mutually consenting adults to play freely among each other. To be clear, sex workers are more than welcome at Our Secret Spot – we just do not allow soliciting other guests for sexual services. If you’re at the club, you are there for fun, not for work.
This means the taking, selling or buying of any type of illicit drug. If you are discovered doing any of the above the matter will be handed over to the police. We are a legitimate business with all the necessary council approvals and the tarnish of drugs is something we will not tolerate.
NO DRINKS UPSTAIRS
‘Upstairs’ refers to the play areas of the club with are upstairs.
COUPLES STAY TOGETHER
Guests that arrive as a couple must stay in and leave the venue together. We have this rule because (sometimes) sneaky men come to the club with a woman who has no interest in being there. The woman gets left alone in the social areas while the man effectively acts as a single male in the club.
This is a venue for open-minded, curious and adventurous adults. There is no guarantee of playing with others. Go to a sex worker/s if you want the certainty of sex. If you don’t meet people you are interested in on one night, don’t sweat it: there is always another night to see who can fulfil your desires.