Frequently Asked Questions
Please read through these F.A.Q.’s. If something is not answered or you want more clarity, feel free to contact us.
Absolutely. At Our Secret Spot, we ask every guest to aim for FUCK YES level consent. That can be verbal, or non-verbal, for example, if your mouth is otherwise occupied, but it must be clear, enthusiastic, and without a doubt.
Respect a no every time. No sulking, no pushing, no “are you sure?”, consent is sexy, pressure is not.
If you are turning someone down, we recommend starting with a simple, kind “no, thanks” rather than launching straight into “fuck no”, unless the moment truly calls for it. Also, avoid vague phrases like “not right now” if what you really mean is “no”.
And if your boundaries are not being respected, please reach out to a staff member right away – we are here to help.
Thankfully, issues are rare, most of our guests are wonderfully respectful, and that is exactly what keeps Our Secret Spot feeling safe, playful, and sexy.
Alcohol
We are a BYO alcohol venue. You may bring your choice of alcoholic beverage in its original packaging. So that you know, we do not allow homemade cocktails.
Anything in glass will be transferred to our plastic glassware.
Standard mixers and juices are available for those who don’t drink or who need a mixer for their alcohol.
We label and store your drinks behind the bar or in the fridge, as needed, and serve them as you require.
There is a bottleshop just across the road, in case you forget to bring something. Please note that Liquorland closes at 10 pm on Fridays & Saturdays.
Toys
You’re very welcome to bring your own toys, costumes, and accessories to enhance your night. If you want to stock up before you visit, our friends at Flirt Adult Store have a huge range of adult toys, outfits, and more, all of which you can bring to the club.
Use the code secret15 at flirtadultstore.com.au to receive 15% off your order.
Safe Sex Goodies
All standard safe sex provisions are readily available in the play areas. If you have any special requirements, such as latex-free condoms or a specific condom size that fits you best, it’s a good idea to bring those along yourself.
Everything else you may need is provided. We provide lockers to store your belongings, towels, and robes if you’d like.
You are not required to dress down upon entering or mingling at the main floor socialising area.
Couples (M/F), single women, approved single males, non-binary folk, throuples, and groups are welcome to attend our events on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday evenings, as well as on select Sundays.
We wholeheartedly welcome trans and non-binary people. We suggest purchasing tickets in line with how you identify. However, if a single male ticket is most appropriate for you, you must contact us via the single male application form before purchasing the ticket.
We welcome guests who look after themselves, are well-presented and have an attitude ready for fun.
If you would like to attend one of our events as an F/F or M/M couple, please email us at info@oursecretspot.com.au
The average age range is guests in their early 30s to mid-40s, with a wider range from the early 20s to the early 60s.
We would recommend that you arrive as close to the opening time as possible. You want time to get settled into the club and meet other guests as they arrive. Getting to the club too late may make it harder to meet others who have spent a couple of hours talking and have moved on to play.
Thursday, Friday and Saturday nights from 8:00 pm till late (best to arrive between 8:00 pm and 9:00 pm). Sunday opening times vary, so make sure to check the event details.
No, we do not require you to attend a Newbie Night first before attending other events.
All of our events are newbie-friendly, so you are more than welcome to choose the one that looks most fun and suits your availability.
If you are attending an event other than a Newbie Night for the first time at the club, please let the bar staff know you haven’t visited us before, and one of the staff will take you on a tour of the club, answering any questions you may have.
No, you do not need to look a certain way to attend our events.
We do not vet or judge our patrons based on body shape, size, age or background. Our staff are a diverse age range and body shape, and we love seeing the same in our venue. What is sexy to one person will not be sexy to another, and we all can rock it and look hot!
What we ask of our guests is that they understand how to present themselves, both in how they dress and how they behave, and that they come with a fun and open attitude.
Communication is Key! Before attending one of our events, make sure you have spoken with your partner and discussed your boundaries and desires for the night ahead, as well as any hard-and-fast rules for yourself/each other.
Continue to check in throughout the night, to make sure your partner is ok and enjoying themselves. Then, once over and back home, talk about the night. What worked, what didn’t? Do you need to change your boundaries for next time? Understanding your boundaries is also important for single people attending our events.
Walk as slow as the slowest person in your relationship! There is no rush. Taking your time and making sure you and your partner are on the same page will always make for a more enjoyable night for all involved. Prioritise your partner over any situation you may find yourself in. You both need to be the most important person in the room to each other. After all, you are there to add value to your relationship and create sexy, fun memories together.
Expectations! Do not come with any. If you end up attending multiple events, you will see how no night is the same. The age demographic will change, as will the people you are attracted to or connect with. Some nights will be easier to make connections, and others will be harder. Also, sex is never guaranteed. Just because you are in a sex club does not mean you will have sex, and anyone attending thinking that this will happen is not in the right venue. There is more to this lifestyle than sex, and for those who stay in the scene, you will no doubt end up with great friends made from both within the club and the lifestyle as a whole.
We have a podcast episode dedicated to Newbies. Check out episode 8 here.
You can also listen to our podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Absolutely not.
What and how much you do it is completely up to you. You set your boundaries that you are comfortable with.
If you are new to swinging or nervous about being in a venue like ours and you’d just like to watch, then that’s completely fine.
If you are a devious sexpot who thrives on the sexual attention and connection of others, then that is fine too. Basically, you are free to do whatever you are comfortable with (consentually, of course).
Yes! We strongly recommend that all guests prioritise safer sex and regular sexual health checks, both inside and outside of the venue. We provide condoms, dams and lube in all play areas of the club for you to use if and when you choose.
That said, we’re a consent-focused venue, not the condom police. We don’t dictate who does what with whom. It would be a bit wild to tell a married couple of 10 years, who never use condoms at home, that they suddenly have to use them just because they’ve walked through our doors. And can you imagine how many staff we’d need to keep track of everyone’s choices? MY GOODNESS!
Because we don’t enforce condom use, clear communication and verbal consent are essential. If someone prefers not to use protection, this must be openly discussed before any intimate play, and all parties need to clearly agree before continuing.
We also do not request proof of a sexual health check from guests. Instead, we strongly encourage everyone, especially those in the ethical non-monogamy community, to have regular STI/sexual health testing and to talk about sexual health with new play partners before things heat up.
For fast and discreet testing, our friends at Stigma Health make it super easy to stay on top of your sexual health. You can:
Buy your referral online
Visit your chosen pathology clinic
Get your results back in just a few days
Use the code secretspot20 at stigmahealth.com to get 20% off your order. Stigma also offers further discounts when you buy multiple referrals, which is perfect if you’re getting tested regularly.
Knowing your status, communicating clearly, and respecting each other’s boundaries are all part of playing safe – and keeping our community fun, welcoming and responsible.
Whilst we advocate having some dirty, naughty fun, we place great emphasis on a clean venue.
Staff are constantly moving around the venue, collecting glassware and tidying up. Sheets and pillowcases are changed regularly throughout the night by our staff, and we always have clean sheets and pillowcases available next to all beds in case you need to change them yourself. Towels are located at all showers, with washing baskets there for all dirty towels.
If there is anything not to your satisfaction on the night, please notify a staff member, and we will rectify it for you.
As part of your ticket price, you receive a locker and use of towels, condoms, dams, and lube. We have private and open showers, multiple toilets and condoms, dams and lube in all play areas in the venue.
And, of course, a venue filled with other open-minded, adventurous, and curious adults.
The quick answer is – NO!
There is no smoking or vaping anywhere inside the venue. If you are caught smoking or vaping and set our smoke detectors off, this is an $1800 fine, which you will be liable to cover. Please don’t use the back door, as this will set off the fire alarm, and you will be responsible for the fine above.
You are welcome to smoke/vape outside the venue on Parramatta Road. Please make sure to put any cigarette butts or empty vapes into the garage bin nearby.
If you request a refund or credit, or need to change your ticket for any reason, please reply to your email ticket or order to let us know what you need. For refunds and credits, notice must be given within the time frame as per our T&C’s below for us to assist.
SECTION 7 of our Terms and Conditions – TICKETING & RETURN POLICY
A refund or credit for a ticket purchase will be approved if you contact the venue more than 24 hours before the event starts.
Only a credit will be available if you give the venue notice between 2 and 24 hours before the event starts.
Neither a refund nor a credit will be approved if notice is given within two hours of the event’s start time.
Private parties are organised and run by 3rd party organisers. The 3rd-party organisers book and pay for the venue to host a private party listed on the events page; you need to know which 3rd-party they like. To be invited to or attend a private party listed on the events page, you need to know the 3rd-party organisers and be directly invited by them. We do not give out details of 3rd-party organisers.
Could you list it if we cannot come? Put simply, it’s to reduce confusion about us being open on a Friday night. We don’t want people to turn up thinking it’s a regular event, only to find out we are closed for a private function.
CAR
If you’re coming by car, there is plenty of street parking on Parramatta Road and the surrounding side streets. As maps can sometimes lead guests to a different 191 Parramatta Road, Annandale, note that Young St is our closest side street, and there is a Shell petrol station and bottle shop opposite us.
PUBLIC TRANSPORT
A taxi, Uber, or bus is the easiest way to get to us from the city or the west. A taxi/Uber will take around 10–15 minutes from the southern end of the city. Parramatta Road is very busy, so at the end of the night it usually won’t take long to find a ride home. The closest train station is Stanmore, about a 12-minute walk from our venue.
ACCOMMODATION
If you’d like to make a proper night of it, you’ve got a few options. Our friends at the Empire Hotel Annandale are just up the road, and Our Secret Spot ticket holders can access a discounted rate when staying on the night of the event you have a ticket for. You can check them out here: The Empire Hotel, Annandale.
If you’re visiting from out of town, the city is only a 10–15-minute drive away and offers a wide range of hotels and apartments, with styles and price points to suit everyone.
No, you don’t need to become a member to attend one of our events.
Our members’ area is a community forum where you can connect with other like-minded people who attend or are interested in attending the club and the lifestyle.
You can become an online member by visiting the Private Members Spot page and choosing a plan that suits you. Then you can sign in, connect, and chat with other members, or reach out to us with any questions.
Yes, our venue is available to hire for events or parties.
If you’d like to host your event for a day or night, invite whoever you like, or use the venue for a film or photo shoot, then this is the perfect solution for you.
Contact us via info@oursecretspot.com.au for further information.
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